How to stay calm and bounce back stronger
Published on: Sunday, May 17, 2020
By: Dr T Selva
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THE unprecedented rate of change to our lives due to the coronavirus pandemic has left many people with broken dreams and plans.

The crisis has completely modified how we eat, work, shop, travel, exercise, interaction and has made our world become hostile and different.

Among the major concern that has surfaced from this situation is tension, fears, worries, disappointments and failures.

I have friends and relatives who lost their jobs, wedding plans on hold, housing loans rejected, important events in their life in a disarray and their master plan for a better future compromised. 

Several readers have communicated with me requesting how can they remain positive when the calamity was crushing on them.  

Remaining calm and composed under any kind of pressure like letdowns, deferments or disruptions is imperative because it will allow things to flow freely and over time it can help you lead a happier life.

Continuously worrying does not help because such an act over a period of time can lead to stress, unhappiness and depression.

One way to ease the current pressure on you is to take stock of your daily routines and schedules and rearrange them to make your life simpler.

At present there are several people who are unknowingly caught in a “self-imprisonment” condition owing to the prolonged restricted and conditional movements. 

There is no benefit in getting panic or worked up because this will further worsen the situation and can result in no peace of mind, mental anguish, anger and sadness.

We must understand that some situations in our life occur unexpectedly and beyond our control.

Although the outcome is negative, we still have the power to choose how to respond to such circumstances positively.

I understand we are powerless to change the unfavourable existing state of affairs whether they are big or small but we have the choice on how to comfort the position without adding more trauma.

In any state, remaining optimistic at all times is important and everyone should treat the challenges as learning experiences.

Remember, try not to overstress the failure because by doing so you are not resolving the issue but multiplying the negative situation into many folds.

Failing is human and setbacks will continue to happen in our lives but staying focused on the positive side of things can bring about better results because there is goodness in all state of affairs.

If you analyse your failure, you will find it is often not as serious as you imagine. 

You may take it seriously because you tend to focus overly while people around you will often look at it as an ordinary happening.

Accept reality as it is and remain undisturbed and never be discouraged by disappointments and handle them anew.

Try to find solutions from a completely new perspective or seeing the situation as an opportunity.

Staying positive does not mean we are being insensitive or denying our emotions but we should not allow ourselves to be trapped in a situation endlessly on the reverses.

We should allow time to heal and then move on above the hard times and bounce back stronger.

Life is about finding happiness in all challenges because our existence is made up of the positive and the negative.

Tips for relieving stress

- Watch a funny movie or comedy show.

- Meditate and eat well-balanced meals.

-l Exercise and avoid staying up late at night. 

- Spend some time taking a stroll at a park or open space.

- Listen to some calming or soothing music and tunes.

- Take bath or soak your feet using some warm water mixed with salt or essential oil.

- Inhale through your left nostril and exhale slowly through your right nostril. Repeat this breathing exercise five times on both the nostrils and you will feel comfortable.

- Find a quiet spot and close your eyes and focus on something that relaxes your mind like a scenic place, a person you adore most and makes you blissful.

- If you are faced with an unpleasant situation, try to distance yourself from it and find a quiet spot and spend sometimes in silence.

- Always have a contingency plan when you are put to face any unpleasant issues because that will allow you to cope with the situation better.

- Make changes to your daily, weekly and monthly routines like automating them as these small steps allows you some breathing space.

- Wear cheerful and bright colours to uplift your mood on the day you will you are under the cloud. Avoid black, grey or dark blue as they are depressing colours.

- Dr T. Selva is the author of the bestseller book Vasthu Sastra Guide. To get a copy contact 012-3299713. He can be contacted at [email protected] Facebook: Vasthu Sastra and Website:

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