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THE stabbing of a 15-year-old student at a secondary school in Banting, Selangor recently has again drawn attention to the fact that violence in our schools can no longer be dismissed.

Less than a year earlier, another secondary school in Selangor was the scene of an even more horrific tragedy when a teenage student was stabbed to death by a fellow student.

The immediate reaction is to ask what is happening to our youths, and many may blame the education system. Others would point fingers at parents or blame social media for poisoning young minds. The truth is that all these factors interact with one another.

Our education system continues to prioritise academic achievement over emotional development. Students spend years preparing for examinations but comparatively little time learning emotional regulation, conflict resolution, resilience or healthy communication.

Mental health education is often treated as an occasional programme rather than a core life skill.

However, it would be unfair to place the entire burden on the school system. Parents remain the first educators of children. Increasingly, many Malaysian families are raising children in environments marked by economic uncertainty, long working hours and digital distractions.

In dual-income households, quality interaction between parents and adolescents may be limited. Some children grow up with every material comfort but little emotional guidance. Others experience neglect, excessive control, family conflict or unrealistic expectations.

Emotional needs that go unmet during childhood rarely disappear; they often resurface later through aggression, withdrawal or self-destructive behaviour.

Equally significant is the digital environment in which today’s teenagers are growing up. International research increasingly suggests that excessive social media use is associated with higher rates of anxiety, depression and emotional dysregulation among adolescents, although the relationship is complex.

The psychological well-being of Malaysian youths deserves far greater attention than it currently receives. The question should not simply be why a teenager became violent but rather what circumstances allowed a young person to reach a psychological state where violence appeared to be an acceptable solution.

Countries such as Finland and Norway have invested heavily in comprehensive well-being programmes for students, school psychologists and early intervention systems. 

Their educational philosophies recognise that academic success cannot be separated from emotional health.

Meanwhile, countries such as Japan and South Korea continue to struggle with intense academic pressure, youth anxiety and social isolation despite possessing some of the world’s highest-performing education systems.

Malaysia stands somewhere in between. We are not experiencing the scale of school violence seen elsewhere, but complacency would be dangerous.

The broader concern extends beyond schools. Today’s adolescents will become tomorrow’s parents, professionals, educators and national leaders. 

If growing numbers of young Malaysians struggle with emotional regulation, empathy, resilience and healthy interpersonal relationships now, the consequences will eventually be reflected throughout society in workplaces, families, communities and public life.

Ultimately, this is neither solely a failure of education nor exclusively a failure of parenting. It is a reflection of a society undergoing rapid technological, economic and cultural transformation while its systems of emotional support have not evolved at the same pace.

Schools cannot raise children alone. Parents cannot monitor every influence. Governments cannot legislate empathy. But together, they can create environments where emotional well-being is valued as highly as academic excellence.

The Banting stabbing should prompt a national conversation about how Malaysia defines success for its young people. If our schools produce straight-A students who cannot cope with disappointment, if our homes provide comfort but not connection, and if our society continues to treat mental health as an afterthought, then we risk creating a future in which such tragedies become more common – and less shocking.

That is a future Malaysia must avert at all costs.

RMR

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